Interview: Delaney (Lana) at 4
26 December 13
On our children’s birthdays, I interview them, asking them the same set of questions each year. This allows us to see how they’re changing and if they have interests that remain the same. I call these the Birthday Interviews. This is Lana’s second interview.
In May, while we were living in Bali, the girls were swimming in the pool when a man introduced himself and asked Delaney what her name was. She replied, “Lana!”
I snickered behind my hand, thinking she was being cute, but she was serious. From that point on, Lana would say, “My name is not Delaney, it’s Lana!” with such ferocity that we took her seriously.
Soon after that first time, I questioned her closely: “Are you Alana or Elana?”
“Lana!” was her serious reply.
So we all started calling her Lana. David’s mother was with us at the time, and she made the switch along with the rest of us.
Delaney is 100% Lana now, and I’ll continue to support her self-determination as she forges her life with (perhaps) a different name to the one given her at birth!
What are you going to be when you grow up?
A big girl.
What’s that going to be like? What do big girls do?
What are your favourite toys?
Chipmunk, dolphins and scissors, also a sting-ray!
Who are your best friends?
What makes you happy?
Sucking my thumb.
What makes you sad?
When I get hurt.
When you dream at night, what do you dream about?
All sorts of things.
What do you like to do with Lauren?
What’s your favourite colour?
What’s your favourite book?
A book about rats.
What does Lauren do during the day?
She makes me honey on bread.
What do you do during the day?
Cut up paper and sticky-tape them.