Calista cuts
9 May 12
Calista wasn’t satisfied with her recent haircut. She didn’t like her fringe hanging in her eyes, and she didn’t want to keep tucking it behind her ears. So she cut it.


Watching my girl-child cut her hair is a very difficult thing for me to do. However, I believe it’s a necessary step in modelling a life that is not dependent on the opinion of others.
Almost two years ago, I received a revelation that I was unnecessarily forcing our children to conform to society’s standard of beauty. After repenting, I stopped dressing our girls and dictating how they should look.
Now I’m been stretched again. I’m learning to show Calista that she is cute and beautiful, even with a well-scissored hairstyle. Besides, it’s just hair and grows back so quickly! (I also reassure myself that Cali is so cute she could pull off any hairstyle…)

When visiting Kaitaia, we often park out the back of the Te Ahu Centre, where we have access to shelter, concrete paths for scootering and even external power points! We’re thankful to have somewhere to hang out while Calista creates a new look.
1 · Rhiannon · 12 May 2012, 13:43
10 points to you as a mum for letting her cut her own hair, I can imagine that is a tricky one! But you are right, we need to focus on what we ourselves like and not what is socially appropriate. And I have to say she did a great job, and she looks beautiful.
Well done to both of you!
Rhi
2 · Allison D · 12 May 2012, 13:49
You are right, she is SO CUTE and can pull off ANY haircut…just like her mother. I remember your gorgeous long and your sexy pixie cut, and now stunning dreads – you are amazing and can pull off any cut just like my Cali Mae
3 · Free Range Mum · 12 May 2012, 16:22
I’m really commenting more on your revelation about society’s standards of beauty. YES!!! This is such a big issue for so many of us! My struggle is that my only girl out of 4 children often chooses to wear… boys’ clothes! I learned long ago that it was unkind and disrespectful for me to insist on her wearing particular clothing such as dresses, cute skirts etc, but now that it’s extended to actually shopping in the boys’ department sometimes, I’ve realised I need to work through it at a deeper level. Thanks for the reminder. :)
4 · Marcia · 14 May 2012, 18:02
Oh wow – you are so brave!! I spoke last week…its been hard to allow Nika to dress herself, and that is no were near letting her cut her hair … sheweee!!
She is looking more and more like her big sister every day.
5 · Johnny Cameron · 16 May 2012, 17:32
Hi Lauren, I am in Auckland now at 115 Wellington St Freemans Bay, Central city ph 3615657 Where are you?
Peace.
6 · LoriM · 18 May 2012, 11:54
Love the short ‘do on Cali….. she is so beautiful….